Make Your Chances Of Lasting Longer
1. Take it day by day
This one I have put first on the list, because it is extremely important. I feel as though we all know a girl that claims that the guy she is into is “the one” after the first date.
Here is a little piece of advice: don’t be that girl.
There is nothing wrong with thinking that someone could wind up being really special in your life after the first date- sometimes you just get a good feeling.
But in a new relationship, it is HIGHLY important to just take things day by day and avoid talking about future or even trying to.
I get it, sometimes, our minds can wander.
Try not to jump to conclusions though and automatically start thinking about the future- that can get one’s hopes up very high and can sometimes lead to even more painful heartbreak.
It is also very important to take things day by day when talking to the person you are dating.
As you know, talking about the future far too early can make someone back out of a relationship very quickly.
Relationships and people change day by day, especially when you don’t fully know the person yet and you both still may be young and growing as people.
Even if the person you are with is willing to talk about the future with you, a future together, sometimes that can be a mistake.
Moving too fast in that way can set very high expectations, which is a whole lot of pressure.
It is very important to just take the relationship day by day and see where it goes.
2. Talking about exes- How much is it okay?
Whenever you get into a relationship, people always say to avoid talking about your ex-relationships, completely.
I agree with that, but only to an extent. First off, if getting you started talking about your ex is something that you won’t be able to quit talking about.
You are not ready to be in a relationship again and you may need more time to move on and that is okay.
I personally feel as though it is important to talk about past relationships and make known what you learned from it, and what you don’t want to happen again.
It is very important to be open and honest about that and to have a mature conversation instead of a bashing session.
It is also important not to compare the person you are dating to your ex- even in your head.
Try your best not to do that! The person you have started a relationship with and your ex, are two separate people, even if you have a type, remember that.
I do feel as though it is important to talk about past relationships, especially if there is a reason why you may be scared, not able to trust, any of that.
It is important that the new person you are with knows that. There is a line, but talking about ex’s does not have to be completely forbidden.
3. Don’t let someone in too quickly
Some people may disagree with me, or even take this the wrong way. I completely agree when people say,
“Someone is going to have to take me for who I am, no matter what.
The right person will be able to handle all of me, good and bad". I believe this is completely true.
Though I also believe that when starting a new relationship, it is important to keep some mystery there about yourself.
Someone new does not have to know every single aspect of your life.
People reveal things about themselves and are open at different paces, it can sometimes scare someone off if you come off too strong and completely reveal all aspects of you both good and bad.
I have seen people make this mistake. They completely open up about every little thing too soon, and the other person gets freaked out.
That does not mean they cannot “handle” you.
People just open up at different paces, and it is important to understand that.